Victoria,
It's human nature for a male officer to be "nice" to a female driver (unless he's just gotten a divorce and been raked over the coals by the judge).
If your BOOH driving days are over, and all your experiences of being stopped were good ones, consider yourself lucky and blessed with being a fine looking woman. Most of the male drivers on this and other forums would like to have a clean driving record. My wife has also been stopped many times and only has one blemish on her record in 30 years (I let her drive my Vette on the highway and her lead foot took her higher than even I could talk the trooper out of leaving her go).
I take it now that your not leaving this forum as you said you might. Apologies have been posted, so hopefully you'll stick around. Sorry to hear about your latest mod.